What is the prostate?

 The prostate is a gland, located just below the bladder between the rectum and urethra at the base of the penis. It is sheathed in the musculature of the pelvic floor, the same muscles that contract during orgasm and ejaculation. It’s a part of the male sexual and reproductive anatomy and is responsible for producing prostatic fluid, one of the main components of semen.

It is highly sensitive to pressure and touch and some men can reach orgasm with prostate stimulation all by itself. Dr. Peter Scardino describes the prostate as “a small plum, with its spongy, fluid filled interior and soft skin.” Think of that ‘small plum’ as being approximately the size of a walnut in a young man. (the prostate tends to grow with age). I won’t go into further anatomical detail but will focus on the pleasure potential of this gland.

When it comes to the prostate, a little bit of knowledge can go a long way.

The prostate is a potential pleasure centre and massaging it can release a tremendous amount of emotional and physical stress, it improves over all erectile function, increases seminal fluid and circulation and feels amazing. 

For many men prostate play is an incredible way to experience pleasure. For some it is immediate, for others it takes some easing into.

Many men describe prostate stimulation as bringing them to new sexual heights resulting in more expansive full bodied pleasure. Much like the pleasure some women experience with G Spot ( urethra sponge ) stimulation…whole body bliss. Imagine for a moment that sense of ‘the point of no return’ lasting for a long time. Some men experience intense, long lasting, even multiple orgasms when their prostate is massaged. This may or may not happen the first time, or ever, every body is unique. If you are open, curious and have a desire to explore this then I guarantee you will  find pleasure in this way. Some men enjoy prostate stimulation on its own; others desire penis play with prostate play. Both are possible. It feels better when you are relaxed and aroused which is why the prostate massage offering is incorporated into the 1.5 or 2 hour session. Only after the whole body/mind is relaxed and the pelvic floor has softened, and the anus stimulated, would a prostate massage be received. Prostate Massage is given using finger stimulation.

Did you know:

  • The prostate is a sensory, walnut sized ish gland between the bladder and the penis, located just in front of the rectum.
  • The urethra runs through the centre of the prostate, from the bladder to the penis
  • It is responsible for making prostatic fluid, one of the main components of semen
  • During sexual arousal, the prostate starts to fill with fluid that it releases during ejaculation
  • About a third of the penis is hidden inside the mans body. Massaging this, the perineum, is a way to arouse more pleasure 
  • A feel good function of the prostate is the pumping that occurs during ejaculation
  • The anus is rich with sensory nerve endings: it has half the nerve endings in the whole pelvic region

There is much pleasure to be experienced in this part of the body, as well as hurdles, for some. Concerns about anal play, safety, cleanliness, sexual orientation, masculinity and gender roles can hold men and their partners back from even experimenting with prostate pleasure. Men of all sexual orientations have the same sexual anatomy and can enjoy erotic stimulation of all kinds. Many heterosexual men love prostate massage.

Sexual orientation is determined by who you are attracted to, not what you do in bed. When any of us have ideas that a given part of our body is icky or shameful, it tends to have a negative influence on our sex lives and our sexualities, and can impact how partners feel about their bodies. Nothing on the body is gross or unacceptable.

I’m happy to answer any questions you may have about prostate massage as well as other erotic curiosities. I am trained to touch genitals for the purpose of your learning and pleasure. I provide prostate massage for first timers and the experienced.

As a Sexual Health Service Provider and Sexual Health Educator I value safety and cleanliness with pleasure. I wear sexy black nitrile gloves   ( like latex but better ) when I touch people’s genitals. It’s safe, sensible, slippery and sexy! Many folks find this arousing in a fun kink kind of way.

The Aneros Prostate Massager is a fun toy to use on yourself if you are looking to self experiment first. Try using your finger, with some lube, in the shower to get to know your prostate.


To book your Prostate Pleasure session please compose a proper introduction with your age and any details you wish to share:

* Check with a medical provider first if you are experiencing prostate issues. The above information is not intended as any medical advice*

   Prostate diagram image provided by Bvibe.